Parenting 101
Online Course + Private Coaching
Let Go of Guilt and Confidently Claim Your Role as a "Good Mom"
Here's a must-ask question for moms...
When you crash into bed (smothered by your child's limbs), overcome by guilt, blaming yourself for every meltdown that escalated to an epic catastrophe, do you really need:
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every podcast from every parenting expert
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years in therapy, digging into painful childhood memories
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another “Say this, not that” script you saw on TikTok?
Will any of that help??
Motherhood doesn’t have to be this overwhelming.
Taylor, Mom of 2, Past Client
I am calmer, more confident, and more secure in myself.
The structured course, action steps, and talking through everything made a huge difference. Now I can maintain my own equilibrium without going on the emotional rollercoaster ride with my son.
What Being a "Good Mom"
Actually Means
Hi, I’m Allyn Miller.
(Confusing name, right? My mom always clarified by saying, Like a boy, but a girl. So much better.)
I’m not the least bit confused about what I see in you:
A mom who has tried everything and wants to be a “good mom,” but isn’t feeling good at any given moment.
What the hell is a "good mom" anyway?
I used to think I had it all figured out, but holy guacamole I had a lot of learning to do.
Let me rewind to early 2014 when I was a toddler teacher and I had two young kids and a husband who traveled a lot. On any night I was slumped in the hallway, between my screaming daughter and my crying son.
What the f@ck was I supposed to do but turn into a puddle of tears, too? (Pardon the language; you realize you need an outlet when you’re around young children all day.)
It didn’t matter that I had a master’s in early childhood education or that I was an otherwise capable, educated, resilient, grownup woman.
I couldn't get through a bedtime routine without unleashing some inner beast of mythological proportions.
Fast forward to summer 2020 when the lightbulb lit up: humans have feelings. Lots of different feelings. Was I the only kid who grew up in the 80s and thought “fine” was ideal? Nobody taught me how to feel feelings. Nobody in my world knew how much it mattered.
Since becoming a certified parenting coach, and incorporating science-backed tools of empathy, communication, and regulation, I’ve become the mom who can hold steady while her daughter screams, “I hate you! You’re the worst mom ever!”
I’ve become the mom who knows exactly why I say yes to another deck of Pokémon cards and no to donuts when we’re bored.
I’ve learned how to connect to myself, understand my children, and make choices that honor our family values.
So here I am, using what I’ve learned about what really makes a “good mom,” ready to help you be a “good mom” in the way it makes sense for you.
Inside Parenting 101, the online course with private coaching, you’ll discover how to feel like a “good mom” and be confident you’re raising “good” kids.
Graduate from Parenting 101 as a
Confident Mom Who Can:
What's Inside Parenting 101?
Six Modules
The modules build a foundation of awareness and tools before moving into more nuanced skills. Topics include: Your Parenting Destination, Parenting Patterns, Science of Stress, Science of Emotions, Boundaries, and Play
Live Coaching Sessions
This is where the magic happens! During our 1:1 coaching sessions via Zoom, you’ll get to practice what you’ve learned, role-play with me, and work through specific scenarios happening in your family.
Accessible Content
Every module has options: a video to watch (with available closed captions), audio for listening on the go, and a transcript you can print, highlight, or add notes in the margin - whatever rocks your socks!
Email Support
You deserve to get the most from your experience, and life happens every day, not just once a week. I’ll be available between sessions if you’re in a bind and need some extra TLC.
Simple Handouts
Nothing sticks the first time, so these handouts are designed like Cliffs Notes with an overview of the important concepts. You’ll also find journaling prompts to guide you during the program and keep you on track after you graduate.
Private Community
Learning happens best when everyone gets to share and connect. I will facilitate ongoing discussions and answer questions that pop up in between sessions. You’ll always be supported, never left to figure it out alone.
Join by May 3rd to get these
BONUSES:
PARENTING
RESOURCE LIBRARY
A curated collection of my favorite resources for ongoing independent study. You’ll find podcast episodes, books, videos, and articles directly related to the topics in each module. Get inspired or dive deeper with this library of learning.
SIBLING RIVALRY
RELIEF
A masterclass series to cut down the arguing, bickering, and constant competition that's so very common among siblings. Learn additional strategies to squash the squabbles if you have multiple children in your home.
YOUR PARENTING
PINNACLE
This fill-in-the-blank template will be your personal inspiration on your toughest days as a parent. Reach new heights again and again as you continue to unlock more parenting magic.
What Moms Are Saying About Working with Me
"Before working with Allyn I was so reactive and I really wanted to do more work on my triggers. During our sessions, I felt like she was in my corner, while lovingly challenging me. That’s not easy to get right.
Now I have so many more tools to maintain my inner calm, and overall I just enjoy being a mom so much more, I feel empowered in the role and I go to bed at night without guilt."
~ Jess B., Mom of 1, past client
“I didn't realize the need to justify my parenting decisions was connected to my childhood challenges, even though I have worked with therapists over the years.
My favorite part of Parenting 101 was the tweaks to my communication patterns that changed the atmosphere for me and my family. I have a number of tools to refer back to, which are great reminders for me during challenging times.”
~ Stephanie W., Mom of 5, Parenting 101 Graduate
Ready to be a "good mom" for your unique child?
Questions Moms Ask Before Saying "OMG, YES!"
Q: How long is the program?
A: The course and initial program runs for 6 weeks. You have the option to continue with additional sessions at a monthly rate.
Q: How much time should I plan for the program each week?
A: The top priority is to attend the live coaching sessions, which are an hour long. Within the course modules you’ll find lessons that are between 20-30 minutes long, and handouts to complete with your personal reflections. The online coursework could require from one to two hours per week. If life happens and you don’t get to all of it, no sweat. You have lifetime access to the course modules.
Q: What if my spouse/partner/co-parent isn’t on board?
A: I can speak from my own family experience: you doing this work will have a positive impact on your children. You become a leader and role model in your family, without having to do any explicit teaching to your partner or co-parent.I will share supportive perspectives and strategies to help you make the most of this program without causing additional tension or stress in your adult relationships.
Q: Will this work if I have older kids?
A: Yes! Focusing on your personal growth as a parent “works” with children of any age, even adult children. The parenting relationship never ends; it changes. Whether you are planning your family, have a toddler crawling around, or a teen grabbing car keys… Parenting 101 will support you to show up for yourself first, which supports how you show up as a parent.
Q: Will this work if I’m a mom with a career outside the home?
A: Definitely. Your parenting relationship is about quality over quantity. Your ability to be present and connected in whatever time you have with your children will help your relationship flourish.
This program will require time and energy, so taking an honest look at your calendar and lifestyle can help you decide how to strategically make space for yourself with this additional commitment. If you desire support to see what this might look like, bring this question to our Clarity Call.
Q: What do you cover in the course?
A: Here’s a summary of what I teach in the course:
Module 1: Your Parenting Destination (Setting Intentions)
Module 2: Parenting Patterns
Module 3: The Science of Stress
Module 4: The Science of Emotions
Module 5: Boundaries
Module 6: Play
Q: Do you offer coaching sessions on nights or weekends?
A: I do not. My typical availability for coaching sessions is Monday - Thursday between 9:00 and 2:00 central time. If you prefer nights or weekends, I can refer you to several qualified coaches who offer that timeframe. I will share their websites and you can choose from there.
Q: How does coaching compare to therapy?
A: Both coaching and therapy have the intention of creating a space for you to feel secure, seen, and understood. The goal is for you to be vulnerable in reflecting on your experiences so you can heal, learn, and grow.
The biggest difference between coaching and therapy is that therapy may include a diagnosis and a specific treatment plan. As a coach, I am not a licensed mental health professional, and I do not offer any diagnosis for you or your child. Therapy tends to support clients to delve into their past and make sense of their memories and challenging experiences. Coaching does access some past experiences but focuses on the impact of the present and action steps for the future.
As your coach, I will always listen openly, with curiosity and non-judgment, to anything you share. If you share something outside my scope, I will let you know and work with you to find additional support if that’s your desire. My past clients who have also been in therapy tell me coaching is a great compliment to therapy.
Q: Do you offer more affordable coaching?
A: Yes, I am a consultant with I Help Moms, where you can get coaching by the minute. You get my guidance through reflective questions, empathetic listening, and actionable takeaways, but you won’t have direct access to me between consultations or the science-backed education available in Parenting 101.
Q: What is the investment?
A: The Parenting 101 private coaching program is $1299.
Q: Do you offer payment plans?
A: Yes, PayPal offers flex pay options, or we can create a customized plan by spreading the investment across multiple installments.
Q: What’s your refund policy?
A: If you choose to withdraw from the program before Session 2 and you paid in full, you can receive an 80% refund (you'll still have access to the online course). Any withdrawals after Session 2 will not be refunded.
You Get To Decide
Let me be clear: you are already a good mom.
I firmly believe you are complete, you are whole, and there’s nothing you need to fix about yourself.
You are reading this, carefully considering if this program will help you shift old habits and patterns so you can show up for your child the way you want to.
Your relationship is not going to flourish because of what you read in a book, heard on a podcast, or saw on TikTok.
Committing to personalized reflection and continuous practice may not yield instant results, but it is the only reliable path to creating the relationship and family you desire.
This leaves you with 3 choices…
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You can keep absorbing all the best parenting tips, tricks, and quick fixes and blame yourself (or your child, or school, or the weather) when you’re still facing epic meltdowns every day.
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You can give up, telling yourself you turned out fine and your kid *probably* will too (as if “fine” is all your child deserves)
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You can follow my step-by-step method with direct support, allowing you to finally be the mom you dreamed you could be: the best mom for your child.
If you want peace of mind and confidence that you’re raising kids to be the best version of themselves, and choice #3 is calling out to you…
…then I want to offer my sincere appreciation for this opportunity to be your guide. I can’t wait to help you make it happen.